In fact, there is a great shortage of culture - including the culture of communication.Some people, of course, intuitively comprehend the subject, but these - the minority.In order for the dialogue should be formed little "slightly opened" - that is, to provide information at the drop of more than required.For example, the question of how to respond to the case "almost normal - at the end of the second quarter in the school."A person can clarify if he is interested.If not - you can throw something else.As a result, where a sound response question - word for word. .. Well, in general, if a person is interested with you somewhere, and conversation will clue "sparkling" - if not, then either uninteresting or mood zeros.We have to try another time.If it has been several talks, not "sparkling" never - most likely to talk to you as a courtesy.These are my personal observations and conclusions.Not all add a drop of this information. - 4 years ago
It seems to me that now can chat remains only on dating sites.And since there is some reason decided to deal with quite specific goals, and the conversations are about the bush.Since the area quite intimate, the first step in the bounds of decency is quite difficult to do.
Not all are equipped with literacy skills letter, in spite of universal education.Fewer still have the ability to communicate at all.In real communication, they can smile, silent and listen.A screen puts them into a stupor.To put it to the people who have in the life of some other events, other than work-sleep-tanchiki.
They may offer to enter into a real campaign for the concert, on the nature( cottage / skiing / surfing), to the movies after all.
Do not wait for that man will be such an initiative.
Woman can also easily call a virtual friend to move the refrigerator.Do not think that you need it to pay for the continuation.
Action, as an occasion to know each other better, once there is a problem in the dialogues.
Most of the dialogue is as follows:
Oh, I'm such a message, or simply do not answer( well I do not want to talk, there is no common topics of conversation, it bothers me), or say one word "hello. Well =)", no counter-questions.I like it and uninteresting, and so I know that the answer is "well," The Simple people have nothing to do, here and write all in a row, hoping that it something interesting to tell, or to be entertained.
If a person really wants to talk to you, he will find what to ask and what to say to the conversation was interesting for both interlocutors.On the Internet, I do not like to talk - too many misunderstandings.You probably do not really understand.
If people can not find common themes at once, it is said that they do not know each other, no more no less.Humor can help in further dialogue, but not vulgarity and idiocy and humor)
Breadth of the Russian soul.
This means that we communicate, and we can sit down( sometimes for a bottle) and talk heart to heart.
Abroad such is not present!
People spend a lot of money on therapists that they would pour his soul.
And we have something for free! !!
Toka do not all enjoy it!
Why not call a girlfriend / boyfriend or just do not sit side by side in a cafe with a lonely man, and do not drink a glass of?This informal conversation = campaign to the psychotherapist! !!!!!
Martini Asti, you in the comment to question themselves at him and answered.
If people are unfamiliar or familiar with very little time, they will not( except for some individuals, of course. .) to talk about the beautiful green lawns and flowers at the neighbor guy or girl eye.And all this because they know little about, and psychologically not ready to open in front of a stranger.
Over time, if friendships or companionship, then everything changes towards a more emotional and substantive dialogue.Thank you for your attention!
Meaning to talk with a stranger, if he does not want to talk and why should I talk to strangers at all.The conversation can not be bred, because people do not fit the "wave" is, you meet a person and you know that he'll subconsciously unpleasant, but when you get to your person, the threads are fast.Therefore, special zamorochennye in choosing the topics of conversation do not find, a lot depends on the initiator of the conversation, if he is in a good mood, he will be able to set a topic for conversation.There are people who talk for days, but is silent, and then everything depends on the talkative, but do not forget that it can turn into a monologue and silent will become very boring.
Said that the most boring people-those that the question "How are you?"begin to express the actual state of their affairs.
Normal dialogue can take place between people who are really interested in the topic of conversation, who know how to listen, hear and discuss.
Give an example of communication.now I am sitting in the queue to the cashier.Nearby sat a man, also took place.After a moment he asked me: "is also to pay?"I answered.After another 2 minutes, he began to tell why he decided not to leave debt for the New Year.I listened, sometimes poddakivaya, but almost not listening.After 5 minutes, I knew that he was working on watches that he accumulated a lot of money on a book that he lazy nephews and many more very interesting informatsii.On told until until it was my turn.I concluded that the man is alone, and he just wants to communicate, but my face he found slushatelya.Ya hardly spoke, but sometimes agreed with him, and he put all his personal problems.Lonely people live badly! !!
PEOPLE! !!!What's wrong???This is not to address the question to the author, but to all who responded.
Each of us has a favorite topic, which, if honestly, we are ready to talk for hours)) This is the subject - we are.Give the person the opportunity to talk about themselves, aim it at that.And fffsё - he is himself happy talk, and you consider the most intelligent and the most pleasant companion.
Yes, just one will say that he currently does not like to talk.and it will be vranёm himself.it just seems to us, we are afraid doveryayat, and the story itself - it is a certain confidence.But if the person will be able to catch us for something that is important for us that we have is "the sense of self-worth," then everything - ready)
For example, a woman loves her grandchildren.And she will always say that about himself does not like to talk.but it's worth it zaiinteresovanno( most importantly!) to talk about their grandchildren as it will no longer hold)
Or a man who collects knives.If it is to start asking about these knives( but again - interested), then he will be happy to have found SUCH interlocutor.
And this is everyone, someone who likes to talk about their studies at the institute, and kto0to about how he was sick and was operated( by the way, about their operations for some reason everyone loves).And who is happy when he tells about a movie or about how he was a commander in the army.
And the most important thing in razgovore- not find a topic that is not to think about yourself.And to understand what is important to the person that touches him.but it is not so difficult.
After even one such person will be happy to talk to talk, and then about anything.
Least because any of our story - a story about ourselves.In, hell, and there is no bad written))) it is necessary to oliteraturit, so write a similar article for sale! - 3 years ago Alexander, you are right on all 100%.For example, start a stranger asking how my dog's health, I told him all podnagotnuyu lay out, because this is a topic for me very interesna.A with that person then I'll start at the meeting to bow, say hello as a good friend.This is called "catch the person behind the string" - to call on the interest of his conversation. __ 26_ - __ 27_ __ 28_ 3 years ago __ 29_ __ 30_ Gal, that's right) I'm saying) But that's "their" topic voice will not - shame))))))))) __ 31_ __ 32_ - __ 33_ __ 34_ 3 years ago __ 35_ And we're a long time to you? - 3 years ago Gal recalled.Kuma came before, everything is just about the dog told.And what more sons, he says grown grandchildren already students, a peasant one around, only we Dusya.And then a granddaughter was born - the talk of the beloved girl.Duxiu sent out into the street in the booth, so that did not bark and vnuchu not wake. - 3 years ago Interests godfathers moved to the granddaughter.This would horosho.Bylo bad if granddaughter was on the side, and place next to his grandmother would be a dog.so, too, it happens.For example, my sister and mother of the son-in-law likes to nurture the whole pack, and a granddaughter and does not want to know. - 3 years ago